DISTANT LOVE - possible or impossible ?

I think there is nothing impossible in love. Love conquers all as goes the saying. "Impossibility" does not factor in a true relationship between two individuals. Remember the movie called " You Got Mail" starring Tom Hank and Meg Ryan, the distance love story in this movie is very realistic. I am pretty sure that right now at this moment when i am writing this message , many ongoing long-distance love relationships are being in good hands. In light of that, i woud like to have my take on the up side of long-distance relationship
While it is not sure for the future direction of your love, you should concentrate on the present. Your distance could be considered a blessing, allowing you to know your friend in many different ways that close proximity can stifle. Proximity can lead to the opportunity to talk anytime. Therefore, physical intimacy could happen before you and your friend are ready. Distance, combined with phone calls and writing, either electronically or via snail-mail, can foster a desirable intimacy which results from learning about another's qualities, values,aspirations, dreams, preferences and ways of thinking. These things sometimes won't come out in a face-to-face conversation. Ad***ionally, your future togetherness will be more special and meaningful thanks to the continous exploration
Write to your friend, tell him/her your dreams and feelings and keep doing that to nurture your relationship !

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it's a really interesting topic anyway, thanks mss president!! Meohoang is back, sorry about disappearance...
Expreience about myself, distant love is impossible. This is because most of the ladies whose fall in love always like their lover, boyfriend nearby them, take care of them, and love them...(of course one of the reason also is "easy to control...And I alway though it's true. But now, everything seens unpredictable , specially "Love" . you guys know why? ,let me tell ya....
A friend of mine (he's my classmate in Vietnam). curently he's doing his study in here (Melbourne, Australia) and he has a girlfriend in Vietnam. They have been communicate to each other through YIM, email , phone ( and all kind of communication) for 4 years!! yes , 4 years,and they still contact to each others, and they gonna to get married sometimes that the end of this year.... I couldn't believe it!! the only word I can say now is thanks god for giving us "LOVE"  
MeoHoang

Two ways to improve your chances for romantic success.
Distance can work against you, but it can also work for you. It all depends on how much you care about each other and your level of devotion and commitment to making the relationship work. Since regular date nights and constant physical intimacy are not options, you must both nurture the relationship and take that crucial extra step.
The circumstances of your relationship can play a big role in its chance of success. There's a major difference between distance in an established relationship and distance in one that is just developing. If your girlfriend is being transferred to another city for her career, you already share memories that will help bridge that distance. But if you met in an Internet chat room,how do you even know that you're right for each other -- without spending time together?
Whether you're long-time lovers suddenly separated by work or a hot new couple who met in cyberspace, here are ways to improve your chances for romantic success:
1. Use technology to further intimacy
Take advantage of communication technology that can make you feel like you're just a room away from one another. Use online chat rooms and instant messaging -- or talk face-to-face, using the Internet and a Web cam. The Internet is great, because it eliminates long-distance telephone fees and allows you to send detailed email and short e-greetings to show you're thinking about her.
Don't forget to set up regular telephone dates too. You may catch something in the tone of her voice that you can miss in email.
Sign it's fizzling: She no longer initiates email or phone conversations, and her responses to your messages are short and perfunctory -- or worse, she doesn't reply at all. Stay alert for signs of distraction or distance, because talking about a problem may nip it in the bud.
2. Send pictures and video
In ad***ion to email and regular phone conversations, send your faraway sweetheart photos (or videos) of yourself, of special events or even of a regular night out with friends (just refrain from sending pictures of a friend's bachelor party!). A digital camera makes it easy for you to email scenes from your life. If she's a new girlfriend, this is a great way to introduce her to people special to you.
Sign it's fizzling: She never sends photos of herself, criticizes what you send her, fails to ask about you and exhibits zero interest in your life.
To be continue ...

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Great ! You guys are doing a good job , bringing quality to SEC . I do hope that you will keep seriously and strictly discussing about this hot topic .
(thanks Aiggno for your wonderful and valuable posting )
Something more to think about :
Some people usually say that if you have good impression on a man and somewhat nearly called LOVE ( both of a new relationship and a durable friendship ), distance can work for you. It will help to develop your relationship . You will think of your half constantly, you'll desire to meet him , you'll do everything to keep him beside you always. Phone calls, email, voice-chat , word-chat , webcam....are all deficient .Overall , your emotion will be strongest . And at that time....you fail in love deeply with him .
Is it true ?

Dimi

Được dirosemimi sửa chữa / chuyển vào 09:37 ngày 04/11/2002

Hi dirosemini,
what is your question? If it is about the feelings when you're in love (are you?), then you are the one who can best answer it.
Are we talking about unwanted distance relationship here? Otherwise, there's no point to avoid seeing your lover when he/she is living next door because nobody wants a virtual relationship for the rest of their lives. RIGHT?
If it is the long distance relationship you want to discuss about, then or course phone,email, webcam ...are NOT deficient for all the reasons Aiggno and I have pointed out. Suppose your boy friend were studying in the U.S and you are in Vietnam and you can't fly to the us. to visit him on a regular basis, don't you want to check him out in other ways from time to time?????

It's not wealth one asks for, but just enough to preserve one's dignity, to work unhampered,to be generous, to be independent

Hi guy ! I am brand new ! i really don't know i should tell yọu guy know the real story of my love one who live so far away from me ! Anyway ! after i read what you guy said about love from the distance and on the net , well i can say there is possible if two people who really love each other ! and the most important thing is trusted your partner !

Now I need to tell you guy about my stories that can proof what i just said , I am 36 yrs old ( too old huh ??? ) i met a girl on the net through a friend that i known on the net too, the funny thing is this girl do not chat with stranger ! So somehow she got my nick and chat with me for the fist time ! later on i find down that she heard so much about me through her friend, so that make her curiousity ! The funny thing that i never chat long with anybody before ! somehow we talk more than 5h that day ! So after that we talk almost everyday when we had a chance, so as time goes by, our relationship grown stronger ! even now we live far apart , but we do trust each others completely, she is really younger than me (22 yrs old), i can't wait until the day that we meet again , she and I have the same common that we both love going out , but we trust each others ! so anything can be possible if two people really love each others and trust !
PS : She is very pickie and really choose on her the other half, but i am totally different . Hope my stories can help somebody see thing clearly a little bit Have a nice day !