Body language (non-verbal language)

Bạn đã bao giờ nghe đến body language chưa? Nếu chưa thì thật là tiếc. Vì:
Có một thực tế là, trong communication body language (hay còn gọi là non-verbal language) chiếm đến 70% trong khi verbal language chỉ chiếm có 30% thôi.
Bạn có thể tin được không? Nhưng đó là sự thực đấy.

Còn nếu đã biết:
So what is body language??? Why is it so important in communication??? Please discuss.

BADGIRL

DECODING BODY LANGUAGE The four basic modes of body language in business
ENGAGED
leaning forward
open body
open arms
open hands
LISTENING
head tilted
lots of eye contact
nodding
high blink rate
BORED
staring into space
slumped posture
doodling
foot tapping
LET ME SPEAK
finger tapping
foot tapping
staring
EAGER
(sprint position)
open legs
feet under chair
on toes
leaning forward
EVALUATING
sucks glasses/pencil
strokes chin
looks up and right
legs crossed in 4 pos.
(ankle on knee)
LET ME GO
feet towards door
looking around
buttoning jacket
AGGRESSIVE
leaning forwards
finger pointing
fists clenched
READY TO AGREE
closes papers
pen down
hands flat on table
ATTENTIVE
(standing)
arms behind back
smile
open feet
REJECTION
sitting/moving back
arms folded
legs crossed 11 pos
(thigh on knee)
head down
frown
DEFIANT
(standing)
hands on hips
frown
DEFENSIVE
(standing)
feet pointing in
hands clenched
LYING
touches face
hand over mouth
pulls ear
eyes down
glances at you
shifts in seat
looks down and to left

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Phrases and Sayings Related to Body Language
BEADY LITTLE EYES:
The pupils unconsciously constrict when we are lying or being deceitful.
SHIFTY EYES:
The eyes avert the gaze of when someone is lying, so the eyes shift around looking at anything and anyone but the recipient of the lie.
SPARKLE IN THE EYES:
The pupils unconsciously dilate when we are seeing something pleasurable, this action allows more light to be reflected off the back of the eye.
OPENING UP TO YOU: A physically open gesture, uncrossed arms and legs allowing more of you to be emotionally and physically vulnerable.
BITE YOUR LIP, TONGUE, LYING THROUGH YOUR TEETH, COVERING UP:
To stop you saying something inappropriate or lying you might bite your lip or cover your mouth as you tell the lie.
GUT FEELING, STOMACH CHURNING: A physical feeling in the stomach indicating a dislike or uncertainty.
CHIN UP or OUT, SHOULDERS BACK:
Often said to people feeling a bit down, by raising the chin up and out with the shoulders back it causes physiological changes making us feel more positive.
FEET ON THE GROUND, STAND ON OWN TWO FEET:
Refers back to the ancient Chinese custom of female foot binding, as those who had this done were usually Royalty and therefore could not or would not stand on their own two feet without causing pain.
STAND OFFISH:
When people stand a just little to far away from us for comfort, outside our personal zone. (45cms - 1m)
KEEP YOUR DISTANCE:
When you don't want someone to get to close to you, or into your personal zone. (45cms - 1m)
PUSHY: Someone who invades the personal space of others(45cms - 1m) would often be referred to as too pushy.
CLOSE, INTIMATE FRIENDS:
Allowing someone into personal or intimate (0cms - 45cms) spatial zones.
PAIN IN THE NECK:
A physical gesture when something is not to our liking.
GET A GRIP ON YOURSELF:
We usually touch ourselves for reassurance in times of stress, a tight grip on the upper arm is common.
UNDER THE THUMB,
Controlled by another person, referring back to ancient Rome when the thumb turned downwards would almost certainly indicate death.
THUMBS UP:
Generally a form of OK, Good or Yes, but be careful where you use this gesture, it can be highly offensive in some cultures.
MAKES MY SKIN CREEP, CRAWL, GETS UNDER MY SKIN:
A physical sensation encountered when you are not comfortable in a particular persons company, conversation topic or tone. This is an expression mainly used by women, as women have been proven to be more sensitive to touch and are more aware of sensations than their male counterparts.
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So cool. You gave many examples of using gestures in communication. And it is really popular. But now let's analysize each gesture.
Start with hand shaking
How do you use? How many way of shaking hand? What do they imply?
BADGIRL

To interpret handshaking, you'll need to learn how to pick up the subtle signals that are sent during a handshake.
The four basic steps in this process include:
1. Engage. A proper handshake should engage the other person's full hand. This means that the web between your thumb and index finger should be touching your partner's. The hand should be flat enough so your palms are touching. This puts your hand in the proper position to give and receive messages.
2. Pause. Pausing is the key ingredient to a successful handshake. By pausing or lingering at the natural conclusion of a handshake, you are expressing sincerity and openness. The objective of the pause is to be the last one to release your hand from the handshake. As you pause, hold your hand slightly at an angle. Cup your last two fingers under slightly, with enough force *****pport the edge of the other person's palm. This will allow you to receive any of the information your partner sends during the conclusion of the shake.
Being the last one to let go may seem awkward at first but if you project a positive attitude with the rest of your nonverbal communicators (e.g., positive voice, good eye contact, and smiling or restraining a smile) the lingering won't be offensive.
3. Observe. Pausing allows you to observe what type of handshake you're receiving. The hand is particularly suited to this kind of investigation because it has more nerve endings per square millimetre than any other part of the body, with the greatest concentration in the fingers. Observe whether the other person is pushing, pulling, or twisting your hand. Notice whether he or she shakes your hand vigorously or barely moves. Is the hand warm and wet or cold and dry? Is it flexible or stiff? Alert your subconscious to be particularly aware at the moment you shake hands. Say to your subconscious: 'While I'm doing what I need to do, collect the information you receive, sort and categorize it, and give it to me as I need it.'
4. Remember. After the meeting, remember what the handshake was like. Ask yourself who shook first. Who let go first? Was the person nervous or relaxed? Was the handshake coherent with what he or she was saying? Compare the opening and closing handshakes. To remember more easily, make a visual image of the handshake each time you greet someone. Write down your impressions.
Once you start remembering handshakes, you can categorize them into ten basic types. These interpretations should be modified by your own observations but they are a good place to start.
The All American
This is the handshake used by most leaders and corporate executives. The person delivering it will look you right in the eye, fully engage your hand, smile, and pump your hand two or three times. This handshake expresses a feeling of relaxed self-confidence. The person using it will be open, trustworthy, and willing to listen. There's no hidden agenda here. He or she is a good 'people' person and could be trusted in a highly classified position.
The Lingering Handshake
This one is firm with a warm grasp and two or more pumps. The end of the handshake pauses or lingers. The lingering quality may denote openness and sincerity, or it may suggest that the person has something up his/her sleeve. Trust your gut feeling about what the shake means. Check the person out carefully if the other signals you get warrant it. If you find that the other person is sincere, he or she will be an excellent candidate for a job or a promotion. I would recommend that you offer people a combination of the All-American and the Lingering handshake. This will send the message that you're open and friendly, while allowing you to pick up the other person's signals.
The Push-Off
Even though this grip may be firm and warm, at the end your hand is pushed or flicked away. The Push-Off can range from a slight stiff-arm to a flat-out rejection. This handshake implies that the other person has a strong need to establish his or her own territory and agenda. He or she will tend to be a standoffish person without good 'people' skills. This person will probably not make a good manager.
The Pull-In
This person holds on to your hand to pull you closer or direct you through a door or toward a chair. This is a somewhat manipulative handshake. Because this type of person is a controller who wants things done a certain way, he or she may not be a good team player. If the organization's goals conflict with this person's goals, there will be a problem.
The Two-Handed Shake
During this handshake, the person's right hand will grab yours while the left hand grasps your wrist, forearm, biceps, shoulder, or neck The higher the left hand, the greater the manipulation and control. This is the favourite handshake of politicians because it implies a quick sincerity and intimacy. This person is trying to sell you something that's not really there; e.g., we're great buddies. He or she would probably not make a good salesperson because other people will tend not to trust this 'used car salesman' shake.
The Topper
The dominant party in this handshake has his/her palm facing down in relation to the other person. Like the winner of an arm wrestling match, the hand on top is clearly in control. To retain equality, simply step into this handshake with your left foot. This handshake says, 'I'm in charge, I'm the Boss.' It tends to be the handshake of the conventional boss or manager who manages through control. If this person is too controlling, this can limit his/her effectiveness with other people.
The Finger Squeeze
Like the push-off, the finger squeeze is used to keep someone at a comfortable distance. This kind of handshake will hurt your hand. This is a very insecure type of person who equates brute strength with personal power. They use their hands as weapons to dominate and overpower people. These days, some women are misguidedly using this kind of handshake.
The Bone Crusher
The bone crusher is trying to intimidate you. Though there is no real physical way to offset this, don't let it go by. If you do, you accept that person's insecurities. You might say, 'Jeeze, your handshake hurts,' or 'Quite a grip you have there.' In business situations, diplomatic decisions have to be made in countering this handshake, however, there are at least two reactions it can stir in the bone crusher. The first is one of contempt, at being chastised for his grip. The second is respect, for standing up to his display of brute strength. Only you can decide how much confronting the bone crusher is worth to you.
The Palm Pinch
This person just offers you two or three fingers. It is usually given by a woman who hasn't learned how to shake hands properly or who has a fear of intimacy. This person will tend not to be very good at interpersonal skills. If you're going to promote the Bone Crusher or the Palm Pincher, you should tell them to shift to the All-American shake.
The Twister
In this one, the other person grabs your hand normally but aggressively twists it under his/her hand at the end. This person is saying, 'We may be coming into this as equals, but in the end I'll be on top.' This person can turn on you. You may think you're in control, but he/she will attempt to catch you off guard. This is a deceitful or devious type of person. Don't gloss over the Twister too lightly. The Twister is a major red flag for a serious background check. This candidate may not be a good team player or a good security risk.
The Dead Fish
We all know people who offer this kind of cold, clammy, indifferent handshake. It tends to drain your energy. This individual tends to be somewhat passive or apathetic. This type of employee will usually be better with computers, machines, and information than with people. If he/she has good technical skills, don't promote him/her to a managerial position. Dead Fish handshakers probably won't have the energy and interest necessary for that type of work.

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body language is only 1 aspect of non-verbal communication.
We normally do not refer body language as non-verbal communication as many people do so.

Cái non-verbal mà các bác nói có giống trong quán bia ôm không các bác?
Dr. Lion King

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Oh my goodness, I have just finished my assignment 'bout Non-Verbal-Communication. I did not know how to do it. Now I find many keywords here. But It's over. I got 6.5 for it.
ronan

Hê hê, hơ hơ, Fun quá đi mất. Lần đầu tiên BG nghe thấy nhận xét đấy, Lion King à. Một phát hiện vừa thô, vừa ngô ngê, những cũng rất thật )
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