DALE CARNEGIE'S COURSE !!!

Dale Carnegie,who was he?

CARNEGIE, DALE (1888-1955), was a pioneer in public speaking and personality development. He became famous by showing others how to become successful. His book How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936) has sold more than 10 million copies and has been translated into many languages. His books became popular because of his illustrative stories and simple, well-phrased rules. Two of his most famous maxims are, "Believe that you will succeed, and you will," and "Learn to love, respect and enjoy other people." His other books include How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (1948). Toward the beginning of his career, Carnegie wrote Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business (1931), which became a standard text.

Dale Carnegie Courses teach men and women to apply the principles and practices of good human relations, get along better with others, and communicate ideas more effectively. They learn techniques for memory improvement, creative decision making, problem-solving, and stress reduction; and gain the confidence to try new ideas, grow, and develop.

Here are the summaries of his books which you can learn from:

First lesson:

How to Win Friends and Influence People

This is Dale Carnegie''s summary of his book, from 1936
( I think almost everyone has read this book and found it interesting)

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Part One

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1.Don''t criticize, condemn or complain.
2.Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3.Arouse in the other person an eager want.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Part Two

Six ways to make people like you
1.Become genuinely interested in other people.
2.Smile.
3.Remember that a person''s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4.Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5.Talk in terms of the other person''s interests.
6.Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Part Three

Win people to your way of thinking
1.The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2.Show respect for the other person''s opinions. Never say, "You''re wrong."
3.If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4.Begin in a friendly way.
5.Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6.Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7.Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8.Try honestly to see things from the other person''s point of view.
9.Be sympathetic with the other person''s ideas and desires.
10.Appeal to the nobler motives.
11.Dramatize your ideas.
12.Throw down a challenge.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Part Four

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
A leader''s job often includes changing your people''s attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:

1.Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2.Call attention to people''s mistakes indirectly.
3.Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4.Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5.Let the other person save face.
6.Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7.Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8.Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9.Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.



"Believe that you will succeed, and you will"

Chocolate

I do not mean to preach, and the last thing I want to apepar as is ''egotistical''..but I think what he says is pretty much ''sao rong'' because it is ignoring the most complicated thing in life that is ''intuiation'' and ''feelings''. Things are always, infact are never, logical, ordered and as that easy to say. I find the words and advice ''sao rong'' even..
However, some things can always be concluded in light of what he said. =)
Nice post.

Doi la bien kho..

Indeed, it was meant to be "Things AREN''T always, infact, are rarely, logical, ordered and that easy to say.

Doi la bien kho..

5 stars for your topic, chocolatemilk. Today while reviewing old posts, this topic really caught my eyes. Keep posting more about Dale, a great author that changed the world. His "How to win friends and influence people" is all time best-selling.
Sil, how are you doing?
If you read that book (the English version) without bias, you''ll understand why it''s still read by readers around the world even though it was written 68 years ago. Just remember that it was initially written for people in business.
Cheers,
neomentor

For those who haven?Tt read ?oHow to win friends and influence peoplê? by Dale Canergie, you can click here [topic]251987[/topic] (Vietnamese Version)

Now that I've found you, I won't let you go away...