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wonder why there still exist parénts who bit their blood child so ruthlessly .
of course, the child should be lived with who actually love them, give them love- full life - as they deserve to receive
however, in the child''s position, the child may not forget that they ''re still their blôod parents .
They can treat you as hard -hearted, or which way they like ,But
you must treat them so warm - hearted ---
just simple, they are blood parénts
---> obligation.

Domestic violence (also known as domestic abuse or spousal abuse) occurs when a family member, partner or ex-partner attempts to physically or psychologically dominate another. Domestic violence often refers to violence between spouses, or spousal abuse but can also include cohabitants and non-married intimate partners. Domestic violence occurs in all cultures; people of all races, ethnicities, religions, ***es and classes can be perpetrators of domestic violence. Domestic violence is perpetrated by both men and women.
Domestic violence has many forms, including physical violence, ***ual abuse, emotional abuse, intimidation, economic deprivation, and threats of violence. Violence can be criminal and includes physical assault (hitting, pushing, shoving, etc.), ***ual abuse (unwanted or forced ***ual activity), and stalking. Although emotional, psychological and financial abuse are not criminal behaviors, they are forms of abuse and can lead to criminal violence. There are a number of dimensions including:
Mode: physical, psychological, ***ual, and/or social.
Frequency: on/off, occasional, & chronic.
Severity: in terms of both psychological or physical harm and the need for treatment.
Transitory or permanent injury: mild, moderate, severe, & up to homicide.

I know that it comes to your mind of women and children who are under the domestic violence, however, therê?Ts something that very few people knows about. I?Td like to add some more info, so you will be able to understand that not only women and children are violently treated by men, but men are now suffering from their wives?Ts irritation or insult. Sometimé, the mental maltreatment is much more dangerous than the physical one. Those wives should be punished. Hehe.Bravo men
Nam gi>i 'ang bi khẩu hi?u "giải phóng phụ nữ", nên có lẽ nghe "giải phóng nam gi>i" nhỈ chuy?n khôi hài. Thực ra, 'ây là vấn 'ề nghiêm túc 'ang 'Ỉợc nhiều nhà xã hTi học trên thế gi>i quan tâm. Thậm chí có ngỈời cho rằng, hình mẫu ngỈời 'àn ông thế kỷ XXI 'ang bc, trông con - họ không thích. Vậy họ mu'n 'àn ông thế nào? Vừa có sự nghi?p, vừa chia sẻ 50% công vi?c gia 'ình? NhỈng li?u có anh nào vừa 'ảm 'ang 'i chợ, cỈm nỈ>c, trông con mà vẫn có công danh sự nghi?p?
Thay bậc '.i ngôi
Thời bao cấp, ch? cần ng"i 'ủ "tám giờ vàng ngọc" Y cỈ quan, nTp lỈỈng cho vợ là không thf chê vào 'âu 'Ỉợc. NhỈng ngày nay, hình mẫu 'ó, nói theo kifu Sài Gòn là "xỈa r"i Di.m!". Thực tế cho thấy, có những gia 'ình, ch"ng học lên tiến sĩ, vợ cũng c' gắng học lên; ch"ng làm ông này, vợ cũng bà nọ; ch"ng làm ra tiền mTt, vợ làm ra gấp 'ôi, bYi không tiêu hoang, lại biết cách làm cho '"ng tiền sinh lợi.
Trong s' những gia 'ình ấy, có 'ôi hạnh phúc, có 'ôi không, có 'ôi nhàng nhàng, không ấm cũng chẳng lạnh. S' hạnh phúc ít hỈn s' còn lại, và 'a phần nguyên nhân bắt ngu"n từ quan ni?m của ngỈời ch"ng: vợ phải thấp hỈn ch"ng mTt cái 'ầu, vợ phải lùi về phía sau, làm mTt cái bóng, là b? phóng cho ch"ng tiến thân.
Anh Nhất Hùng Y Hà NTi tâm sự: "TrỈ>c 'ây, tôi cũng nghĩ 'Ỉn giản, vợ có 'iều ki?n thì 'f cô ấy tiến thân. Tôi v'n an phận, không bon chen thì chfm con cái, nhà cửa 'f cô ấy rảnh rang lo sự nghi?p. Ai ngờ, vợ càng thfng chức thì tôi càng bc hết cần giải phóng nam gi>i khỏi quan ni?m c' hữu: 'ã là 'àn ông phải có sự nghi?p. Ngày nay v>i 'àn ông, sự nghi?p và gia 'ình 'ều quan trọng nhỈ nhau. Nếu thành công trong sự nghi?p mà gia 'ình bất hạnh, tan vỡ thì làm sao hạnh phúc trọn vẹn. Nhiều ngỈời cho rằng, gia 'ình hạnh phúc là mTt mục tiêu chính của 'ời ngỈời 'àn ông, bên cạnh sự nghi?p. N- lực xây dựng gia 'ình hạnh phúc và sự phấn 'ấu 'f có sự nghi?p là hai quá trình tỈỈng h-, không hề ''i nghc v>i lửa, có cái nọ thì phải mất cái kia.
Tại sao chúng ta lại quan ni?m 'ã là 'àn ông thì phải có sự nghi?p? Chẳng lẽ phụ nữ không cần? Vậy bình 'ẳng Y ch- nào? Chính quan ni?m này 'ã chất lên vai nam gi>i mTt gánh quá nặng. Những ngỈời 'àn ông bình thỈờng cảm thấy không những bi 'ấng mày râu, 'ó là: 'àn ông mà ủy mi luôn phải kìm nén tình cảm thật của mình. Điều 'ó không có lợi về mặt tâm lý. Họ có thf bi hi?n nay kém phụ nữ 'ến bảy nfm, và con s' b?nh nhân tâm thần là nam gi>i luôn cao hỈn nữ gi>i?
Trong lĩnh vực yêu 'ỈỈng cũng thế, tại sao cứ phải 'àn ông giữ vai trò "tấn công"? Đã gọi là bình 'ẳng, ai tỏ tình trỈ>c mà chẳng 'Ỉợc? Quan ni?m phụ nữ là "cọc", nam gi>i là "trâu" và ch? có trâu 'i tìm cọc là xỈa r"i. Ngay trong quan h? vợ ch"ng, không nên coi phụ nữ chủ 'Tng là... "hỈ hỏng". Trái lại, các nhà ******** học hi?n 'ại còn cho rằng, ch? khi nào phụ nữ "cầm chi d. 'ạt 'ến '?nh cao của hạnh phúc ái ân. Đáng tiếc là kết quả nhiều khảo sát cho thấy, những 'ôi vợ ch"ng nhỈ vậy rất ít.
Đàn ông còn bi tỈ cách là ngỈời mẹ, ngỈời chi vợ cần phải 'Ỉợc xử lý nghiêm. NhỈng thực tế, không ít 'àn ông b, thấy ch"ng ngỈời ta mà ham".
Cho nên, phản ''i nam gi>i áp bức nữ gi>i, nên chfng cũng phải có lúc phản ''i nữ gi>i... áp bức nam gi>i? Khái ni?m bạo lực phải 'Ỉợc hifu 'ầy 'ủ cả hai mặt: bạo lực thân thf và bạo lực tâm lý. Đó là chỈa kf, khi phụ nữ bi b< vợ ngỈợc 'ãi thì... ki?n Y 'âu?

Statistics About Domestic Abuse And Violence Against Men
Very little in known about the actual number of men who are in a domestic relationship in which they are abused or treated violently by women. In 100 domestic violence situations approximately 40 cases involve violence by women against men. An estimated 400,000 women per year are abused or treated violently in the United States by their spouse or intimate partner. This means that roughly 300,000 to 400,000 men are treated violently by their wife or girl friend.

Why Do We Know So Little About Domestic Abuse And Violence Against Men?
There are many reasons why we don''t know more about domestic abuse and violence against men. First of all, the incidence of domestic violence reported men appears to be so low that it is hard to get reliable estimates. In ad***ion, it has taken years of advocacy and support to encourage women to report domestic violence. Virtually nothing has been done to encourage men to report abuse. The idea that men could be victims of domestic abuse and violence is so unthinkable that many men will not even attempt to report the situation.
The dynamic of domestic abuse and violence is also different between men and women. The reasons, purposes and motivations are often very different between ***es. Although the counseling and psychological community have responded to domestic abuse and violence against women, there has been very little investment in resources to address and understand the issues of domestic abuse and violence against men. In most cases, the actual physical damage inflicted by men is so much greater than the actual physical harm inflected by women. The impact of domestic violence is less apparent and less likely to come to the attention of others when men are abused. For example, it is assumed than a man with a bruise or black eye was in a fight with another man or was injured on the job or playing contact sports. Even when men do report domestic abuse and violence, most people are so astonished men usually end up feeling like nobody believes them

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To make it clear, here are some forms of abuse:
Forms of abuse
Domestic violence can take the form of physical violence, including direct physical violence ranging from unwanted physical contact to rape and murder. Indirect physical violence may include destruction of objects, striking or throwing objects near the victim, or harm to pets. In ad***ion to physical violence, spousal abuse often includes mental or emotional abuse, including verbal threats of physical violence to the victim, the self, or others including children, ranging from explicit, detailed and impending to implicit and vague as to both content and time frame, and verbal violence, including threats, insults, put-downs, and attacks. Nonverbal threats may include gestures, facial expressions, and body postures. Psychological abuse may also involve economic and/or social control, such as controlling the victim''s money and other economic resources, preventing the victim from seeing friends and relatives, actively sabotaging the victim''s social relationships, and isolating the victim from social contacts.
1.Physical violence
Physical violence is the intentional use of physical force with the potential for causing injury, harm, disability, or death, for example, hitting, shoving, biting, restraint, kicking, or use of a weapon.
2. ***ual violence and incest (loan luan)
***ual violence and incest are divided into three categories:
1. use of physical force to compel a person to engage in a ***ual act against his or her will, whether or not the act is completed;
2. attempted or completed *** act involving a person who is unable to understand the nature or con***ion of the act, unable to decline participation, or unable to communicate unwillingness to engage in the ***ual act, e.g., because of underage immaturity, illness, disability, or the influence of alcohol or other drugs, or because of intimidation or pressure; and
3. abusive ***ual contact.
3.Emotional abuse
Emotional abuse (also called psychological abuse or mental abuse) can include humiliating the victim privately or publicly, controlling what the victim can and cannot do, withholding information from the victim, deliberately doing something to make the victim feel diminished or embarrassed, isolating the victim from friends and family, implicitly blackmailing the victim by harming others when the victim expresses independence or happiness, or denying the victim access to money or other basic resources and necessities.
Women who are being emotionally abused often feel as if they do not own themselves; rather, they may feel that their significant other has nearly total control over them. Women undergoing emotional abuse often suffer from depression, which puts them at increased risk for suicide, eating disorders, and drug and alcohol abuse.[12]
4.Economic abuse
Economic abuse is when the abuser has complete control over the victim''s money and other economic resources. Usually, this involves putting the victim on a strict "allowance," withholding money at will and forcing the victim to beg for the money until the abuser gives them some money. It is common for the victim to receive less money as the abuse continues. This also includes (but is not limited to) preventing the victim from finishing education or obtaining employment, or intentionally squandering or misusing communal resources.
5.Stalking
In ad***ion, stalking is often included among the types of Intimate Partner Violence. Stalking generally refers to repeated behaviour that causes victims to feel a high level of fear
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