Is there any chance for a happy marriage of Vietnamese and foreigner?

Hi, Everybody !
I am a new member. Today I go to stroll aimlessly to this forum and see your a very good topic. Hope to learn more from all of yours !
Re: Marriage between Vietnamese and foreigner, I think marriage is the strongest bond between two people. Parents are here and one day they are gone. Children grow into adults and leave to start their own lives. Your spouse is only person who is meant to stay with you the rest of your time on this planet ?!
As much as you were in love when you got married, your love and commitment to each other can grow over the years. Marriage can get better, not worse, with time. The longer you''ve been married, the more history you have together.The triumphs and disappointments, the successes and the failures, all are part of sharing a life together. And that history is unique to you. No one else has that or can duplicate it. This is why a man who leaves his middle aged wife for a younger woman eventually wants to come back. With his wife he has a history-a shared past. With the new woman there is only the present.
So, I think you have to consider carefully about your love with a foreigner man. Are you sure that, it''s your true love? or you just to satisfy your finance and wanna a material con***ions overseas? That''s important problem !
Have fun !

What you''ve said can be applied to all cases, my dear, no matter what the person is foreigner or not.
Being with a foreigner, beside the fact that you have to bear more pressure than with a ?onormal person? of ur race, beside public critics on your personality and purposes, you have to face a constant threat of being ?odifferent? from the one you choose to share life with at every moment of your life.
Being someone directly involved in a similar case, I myself faced many hidden difficulties of taking to my life someone who is completely different from me in terms of culture, behavioral standard, habits and the sense of right and wrong.
It''s sure difficult, but not impossible. Just love alone cannot be sufficient. In many cases, forgiveness, changes, adaptations and sometimes ignorance are needed to reach an ?ohappy ending?.
Until now, I dunt know whether I will be strong enough to overcome all present obstacles. Everyone is unique; there is neither standard for love nor for any other human feelings. So let stop worrying about whether you would fit a foreigner and vice versa. Life is surprising and amazing and so is a human being. Live with love and love with soul, you will see, there is not a word that sounds like ?oimpossiblê?!

People say that " LOVE IS NEVER TO REGRET" I think that it is right about this case. What is your opinion ?

Last night my sis called me and told me about her wedding celebrated next month. Her voice sounds happy, and she smiled a lot during our conversation. Suddenly I think of this topic.
Is there a really happy ending for such a couple? I know the reason why my sis accepted to get married with him, but I dont know how come she said that she loved him...
Được FJX sửa chữa / chuyển vào 04:32 ngày 04/03/2006

If you ask me a question like this: ?oIs there any chance for a happy marriage between a Vietnamese and a foreigner?", without any hesitation, I will answer yes right away. There is always a chance for something to happen, right? So with this kind of question, my post will not exceed 3 lines which I do not like.(?~Cos I am not a spammer) Let me discuss this question: "What are the advantages and disadvantages of a marriage between a Vietnamese and a foreigner suppose that their marriage is the result of their love?"
I do not know why when taking about a marriage between a Vietnamese and a foreigner, people tend to think that the bride must be a Vietnamese and the groom must be that foreigner. Of course, there are more Vietnamese women marrying foreigners than Vietnamese men but since we are talking about marriage in general, let me put that aside.
To begin with, there are many difficulties a couple from different countries must face when they decide to get married and live together. The most obvious things are cultural barriers. Not talking about exceptional cases, most couple will have difficulty communicating with one another in the first place which makes it hard for them to express their love or to point out their ideas when discussing or arguing over something. As a result, they will lose understanding and make the gap between them wider and wider by the day. Moreover, different cultures will lead to different thinking which leads to different behaviors. Vietnamese guys/tends to stay at home at the weekend, playing with their child whereas Caucasian guys/girls tend to go to pub or disco at the weekend to entertain themselves. And this will makes at least one of them unhappy to go out or to stay at home if they do not have enough understanding. What is more, when marrying to a foreigner, either the husband or the wife has to live far away from their parents, which make them feel homesick, uncomfortable, and stressful. This is understandable since they are not yet getting used to the different country and different culture in the first place, they cannot communicate with anyone except their spouse. We call this "culture shock" and it is inevitable. Some just need time to overcome this hard period, while some need consultation or they will feel really painful. The last thing that may need considering when talking about difference in culture is food. What happens if your wife cannot cook the food of your hometown? Or suppose she can cook your favorite food, what is she going to eat? She is not familiar with your food in the same way that you are not familiar with hers. What a tough situation it is!
There seems to be a lot of disadvantages for a couple from different cultures. How about the advantages? First thing first, by accepting and trying to overcome those difficulties, they can get married to the one they love and it is worth doing it, is it not?(For those who marry a foreigner not because of love but money, maybe in their opinion, it is worth doing so. After all, their life is theirs and I have no idea about that). Second, since they cannot communicate with one another very well, they cannot offend one another very badly in their argument(either one of them cannot express their idea or the other one cannot understand very well) and believe me, this is good for them. Thirdly, marrying a foreigner helps you to know a new culture and to learn a new language easily. For me, if you open your mind and willing to learn, this is very interesting.
In conclusion, above are just my 200VND opinions about advantages and disadvantages of a marriage between a Vietnamese and a foreigner. Whether you should marry a foreigner or not, it is up to you. Follow your heart (but remember to use your brain simultaneously), do what you think will make you happy and try your best not to regret for your choice.
Được theInvincible sửa chữa / chuyển vào 08:02 ngày 04/03/2006