LOVE FIRST OR CAREER FIRST ????

What is love?

In Valentine day, i saw a lot of teenable couple . Both of them are less than 18 years old, but their relationship is much more than a couple. I think that nowadays, teenageers tend to love and be loved sooner. Most of them haven''t ever thought about their career in the future. They may believe that "LOVE" will take them more mature !!!
In sum up, love can''t make you full, cant give you more entertainment as career!!

R u sure? Have u ever loved anyone?

Mr. letmebe said that to ...comfort his lonely Valentine, I think

First of all, let me tell you something about this question. To understand this question thoroughly, we need to know the definitions of love and career. The definition of career is quite simple: career is a chosen pursuit; a profession or occupation. How about love? (This is a tough one, isn?Tt it ?) Some may think love is just two people having some feelings for one another, get acquainted with one another then going out, having *** and that''s all. I tell you, that is not love. What is love? . Many writers and poets have been trying to define love but none of them succeeded. Unfortunately, I myself cannot give you the exact definition of love either. However, each person can have his own definition of love. Mine is like this: ?oLove is your soul''''''''s recognition of its counterpoint in another?. To be honest, that definition is not exactly mine, I just saw it somewhere, found it true, like it and put it here(I think that is still okay, isn''''t it?). According to my definition of love, I can say:"You ask the wrong question". When love comes, it comes and you have no way to stop it which means you have no choice to make. Your mind forces you to concentrate on your career and forget about love but your heart keeps hurting you if you follow your mind. You can never force yourself not to love someone in the same way that you can never force yourself to fall in love with someone. Of course, you can determine not to get closer to the one you love or not to go out with him. You can also deny that you love him should he ask you, but you can never determine not to think about him day after day. And that does mean you are in love no matter how hard you try to resist. So I have some reasons to say that it is a wrong question, do I not?

Now, suppose that the question is right which means you can force yourself not to fall in love at all if you do not want to, what should we choose? Love or career?
For men, it is an easy question. I choose career first. The reason is quite straight forward. When a man(I mean a good man) loves a woman, he always think about marrying her and taking care of her. We have many ways to take care of the woman we love but believe me without money, you cannot take care of her. Please do not get me wrong , I am not a materialist, I just tell you the truth. What can you do if your wife need a house to live and you do not have enough money? We do need a house to build up a family, do we not? What can you do if your wife or your children are sick but you cannot afford the medical fee? What can you do if your wife and your children look untidy in those old clothes while others?T wear good clothes and you have no money? What can you do if you want to buy something nice for your wife or your children and you do not have enough money? Just answer those questions and I believe you will get my idea.
For women, the answer is not as simple as for men. Women are not like men who can get married at any age as long as they are not too old.(By using old I mean over 40, but at the age over 40 or 50 a man can still get married to a woman who is much more younger than him if he is a successful man). Each woman has their own time. When that time has passed, it is difficult for them to get a husband. This is understandable since when a man wants to get married to a woman, he want a wife, not a sheet-anchor, he thinks he should be the one who supports his family, not his wife so her ability to make money means nothing to him. Futhermore, most men are attracted to women by their apperance, and sad but true, they are not very happy to marry old women. So what should women do? Does they have no choice but to get married soon? Not really. They also have choice but they have to balance their choices. For me (just for me), it is best for you women to finish your bachelor degree, find a job, if you still have time you can get a Master or PhD degree but remember to get married before you turn 30. Unless you are very beautiful and talented or you strongly believe that you can live independently without any man, please follow my advice.
Okay, that''s all. Let me summarize what I have been typing so far:
Number 1: "Love first or career first?" is a wrong question.
Number 2: Suppose that it is a right question, men should choose career first(but they should know at which point they should stop to find their love and then continue pursuing their career later).
Number 3: Women should also choose career first so that they do not have to rely too much on men, but unless they think they can live without men(by using men here I mean the men who they love and want to live with, definitely not any man, of course you can have a loser at any time, right?) they should balance their choices, i.e.: they should get married before turning old (25-30 is best, 30-35 is average, and >35 is bad )
Được theInvincible sửa chữa / chuyển vào 18:33 ngày 03/03/2006

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