những bài học cuộc sống của Oprah Winfrey:)

những bài học cuộc sống của Oprah Winfrey

Mọi Người ui, hôm nọ mình đọc được 1 bài này hay wa , muốn share với mọi người nhưng ko bít là đã có ai post lên chưa , post trùng bài thì xí hổ lắm . Anyway, mình vẫn cứ post lên cho những ai chưa đọc thì đọc nhé
Tiện đây chúc cả nhà một năm mới thành công trong công việc , hạnh phúc trong cuộc sống nhé. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!

Dream BIG


Have you ever felt your dreams were too big to realize? Oprah says dream big, work hard, and after you''ve done all you can, fully surrender and let the dream unfold.

WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE
As much as my work in television has been a big dream, the truth is that I never set out to create this huge life. The path to my success was never about attaining incredible wealth or celebrity. It was about the process of continually seeking to be better, challenging myself to pursue excellence on every level.

What I know for sure is that it''s only when you make the process your goal that your big dream will follow. That doesn''t mean your process will necessarily lead you to wealth or fame?"in fact, your dream may have nothing to do with tangible prosperity, and everything to do with creating a life filled with joy, no regrets and a clear conscience.

The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be. I believe you can only do this when you stop long enough to hear the whisper you might have drowned out, that small voice compelling you toward the kind of work you''d be willing to do even if you weren''t paid. Once you tune out the noise of your life and hear that call, you face the biggest challenge of all: to find the courage to seek out your big dream, regardless of what anyone else says or thinks.

By O Magazine
Oprah.com
Where the Love begins


Do you long to be more intimate in your relationships? Oprah explains why you first need to love yourself.


WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE
Talking with thousands of people over the years has shown me that there''s one desire we all share: we want to feel valued. Whether you''re a mother in Topeka or a businesswoman in Philadelphia, each of us, at our core, longs to be loved, needed, understood, affirmed?"to have intimate connections that leave us feeling more alive and human.

What I know for sure is that a lack of intimacy is not distance from someone else; it is disregard for yourself. It''s true that we all need the kind of relationships that enrich and sustain us. But it''s also true that if you''re looking for someone to heal and complete you, you''re wasting your time. Why? Because if you don''t already know that you have worth, there''s nothing your friends, your family, or your mate can say that will completely assure you of that. You are the one best mother, father, sister, friend, cousin, and lover you will ever have.

Right now you''re one choice away from seeing yourself as someone whose life has inherent significance?"so choose to see it that way. You don''t have to spend one more second focusing on a past not filled with the affirmation you should have gotten from your parents. Stop waiting for your husband to say "I appreciate you," your kids to tell you what a great mother you are, a man to whisk you away and marry you, or your best friend to assure you that you''re worth a darn.

Look inward?"the loving begins with you.


By O Magazine


The Power of Thought


WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE
Recently, a woman asked me, "What was the a-ha! lightbulb moment in your life?" I realized it was when I figured out that my thoughts control my whole life?"that no matter what hand life deals me, I can always choose my response to it. We are each responsible for our lives and, more important, the thoughts that create them. If you want your life to be more rewarding, you have to change the way you think.

I used to think that other people should feel and think the same way I do. Then I realized they experienced me as too controlling. For instance, whenever Stedman drove us home from our farm in Indiana, I would tell him which way to turn. If you turn left at the farm''s gate, it''s eight miles to the interstate to Chicago. If you make a right, it''s 12. Every time Stedman reached the gate, I would tense up. He would always go right, and I would invariably say, "If you turn left, you can save four miles." But he liked to go the other way because he got to see more deer.

For two years, that was our routine. Then one day, we got to the gate, and Stedman said, "All right, which way do you want me to go?" I replied, "Any way you want." He was shocked. I had decided not to think any more about which way was fastest or the one I''d choose but, instead, to sit back and enjoy the ride. It seems like a small thing, but it has made the drive home a lot more pleasant for both of us. And I saw that once I chose to just let people be, my relationships got better.

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PEEL BACK THE LAYERS TO UNCOVER YOUR TRUE SELF

When you seek the truth within, you begin to live a life that honors your deepest desires.

Your best life is achieved by listening to the wisest part of you?"what you know to be true. But how can you discover the truth? To begin, challenge yourself to look more deeply at the choices you make. Examine the true motivation behind your actions. Is working all weekend necessary to forward your career, or are you simply trying to please your boss? Will an evening of shopping really make you happy, or are you just filling time? Writing in a journal can be a wonderful way to uncover how you really feel. For instance, you may discover that the anger you feel toward your spouse is hiding the sadness of knowing you''re growing apart.

As you begin this process, be gentle with yourself. Facing the truth can be a bit unsettling at first. But since your world reflects the truth of your choices, know that when you act on your true feelings, you start to live a richer life. Begin now by telling yourself the truth every day.


By O Magazine
CONFIDENCE


WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE
Find the flow and follow it. You can''t go wrong. Even if you''re in a situation where you feel uncomfortable or out of place, don''t try to swim against the current. Change direction. Find the flow and follow it.

Moving with the flow of life has given me supreme confidence because I know there''s a Power greater than I, a natural rhythm to things that is a force beyond my own. I trust it and believe that no matter what, I will be okay. I know for sure that this is the ultimate in confidence. I know that I am more than my personality, my body, and my body image.

Life is huge, more expansive than we can feel or imagine. Even in my deepest me***ation or moments of profound awareness, I can only connect with a fraction of all that is alive. Whenever I find myself in a difficult situation, I''m reminded of a line from a Maya Angelou poem called "Our Grandmothers": I go forth / alone, and stand as ten thousand. I think of all who''ve come before me and had to endure trials that would level most of us in our urban comfort zones, and I realize I''m not the first person to face big challenges. This has been done before. I can do it again, maybe even better.


By O Magazine
Formula For Success


The winners in this life know the rules of the game and have a plan. Whether you''re looking to heal a relationship, get a new job, lose weight or find inner peace, consider these characteristics, which Dr. Phil says are common to people who succeed.

Vision: Champions get what they want because they know what they want. They have a vision that keeps them motivated and efficiently on track. They see it, feel it, and experience it in their minds and hearts. What is success for you? You won''t get there without knowing what it feels and looks like.

Strategy: People who consistently win have a clear and thoughtful strategy. They know what they need to do and when they need to do it. They write it down so they stay on course, and avoid any alternative that does not get them closer to the finish line.

Passion: Are you excited to get up in the morning? People with a passion are, and they''re energized about what they are doing. You need to live and breathe what it is that you want, and be passionately invested in both the journey and the goal.

Truth: People who consistently win have no room in their lives for denial, fantasy or fiction. They are self-critical rather than self-deluding, and they hold themselves to high but realistic standards. They deal with the truth, since they recognize that nothing else will make their vision obtainable.

Flexibility: Life is not a success-only journey. Even the best-laid plans sometimes must be altered and changed. Be open to input and consider any potentially viable alternative. Be willing to be wrong and be willing to start over.

Risk: People who consistently win are willing to get out of their comfort zone and try new things. Be willing to plunge into the unknown if necessary, and leave behind the safe, unchallenging, and familiar existence in order to have more.

Nucleus: Surround yourself with a group of people who want you *****cceed. They will move with you toward your goal. Choose and bond with people who have skills, talents and abilities that you do not. Winners give and receive by being part of other people''s nuclear groups.

Action: Do it! People who succeed don''t just sit and think about what they want to do. They take meaningful, purposeful, directional action consistently and persistently. Every step they take puts them toward the outcome they''re looking for.

Priorities: People who are consistent winners manage their challenges in hierarchical fashion. They commit to managing their time in such a way that does not allow them to spend time grinding along on priority number two or three if priority number one needs their attention.

Self-management: People who consistently win consciously and pointedly take care of themselves as individuals. They are the most important resource they have in achieving their goals. They actively manage their mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health.

Dr.Phil.com
ENERGY

OPRAH''S ENERGY POLICY
I was in my 20s when I figured out how to regulate my energy. I''d taken a job as a reporter and was working hundred-hour weeks, trying to be a team player. It was only after I became depleted that I realized I had only a certain amount of energy?"and I needed to conserve and restore it. I understood that I had to keep giving back to myself, to refill my tank.

Now, when I begin to feel exhausted, I pull back. If I''m at work and people are lined up at my desk with one request after another, I literally go sit in my closet and refuel. And I always give myself Sundays as a spiritual base of renewal?"a day when I do absolutely nothing. I sit in my jammies or take a walk, and I allow myself time to BE?"capital B-E?"with myself. When I don''t, I absolutely become stressed, irritable, anxiety-prone and not the person I want to be in the world.

The way you eat makes a difference in terms of sustainability, which is why I avoid sugar?"I don''t want a high followed by a fall. I don''t do energy bars or caffeine. I''ve learned to listen to my body. I know I''ll be hungry at ten o''clock every morning, about the time I finish taping my first of two shows. At four in the afternoon, I''m ravenous. "Must be ten of four," I''ll announce during a meeting, "because I could eat this cushion." That''s when I have my biggest meal of the day?"usually a protein and some kind of fruit or vegetable.

But feeding yourself is more than food. I believe we''re all connected to each other''s energy fields?"whenever you walk into a roomful of people, your energy is either restored or taken away from you. If I''m around someone who saps me, I have to put up a barrier?"a nonphysical wall that keeps that person''s negative vibes away.

Energy is the essence of life. Every day, you decide how you''re going to use it by knowing what you want and what it takes to reach that goal, and by maintaining focus. That means asking yourself, Is what I''m doing part of my overall plan?"and can I release the energy I''ll need?


MANAGING YOUR ENERGY
For all of us who perpetually feel that there aren''t enough hours in the day, performance psychologist Jim Loehr argues that managing your energy is far more important than managing your time. And while the time bind gets all the press, Loehr must be onto something: Oprah says that when she read his book, The Power of Full Engagement (Free Press), coauthored with Tony Schwartz, she thought, "I''ve been doing this for years."

Nicole Keeter finds out more from Loehr:

Q: You encourage people to actively seek stress, though most of us have been taught that stress is unhealthy and to be avoided.

A: It''s a conundrum. People think that they''re being devoured by stress, but I always ask them where they got the strength they have now. Has it been from the storms, the challenges?"the stress? Or from the good times, the great parties? In every case, people say that what''s pushed them the most has helped them the most. Stress pushes us to expend energy emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually. Then comes a period of recovery and healing?"and growth.

Q: You developed much of The Power of Full Engagement through years of working with world-class athletes. How did you connect these ideas to the energy use of average people?

A: Athletes think about energy recovery. Most people don''t. If there''s a massive energy expen***ure, you need an equivalent recovery period or you end up exploding. It''s an exciting concept because it gives people permission to go to the beach.

Q: We tend to see taking a break as a waste of time.

A: So many people give 100 percent all day long, but they never renew. Renewal can be doing yoga, getting a massage, listening to relaxing music, turning off your cell phone on the way home, or eating five or six small meals a day rather than one or two bigger ones, to keep your blood sugar up. We usually try to give people one or two things maximum that they can do to convert a negative habit into a positive ritual. If you bring every resource you have to making one change the most important thing in your life for 30 to 60 days, it will start to take. Within four months, you might put together two or three of these, and the balance of your life will begin to shift.
TIME

Protect your time, it is your life. The question is not, "How busy are you?" but "What are you busy at?"

WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE
I am more aware of time now than I have ever been. Something about turning 50 does that to you, I guess.

I feel an almost primal awareness in the core of myself that there''s a finite amount of time left, and that feeling permeates everything I do and dictates how I react in every moment. I''m more conscious and appreciative of every experience, every awakening (gee, I''m still here; I get another chance today to get it right). I try to take them all in, even the negative ones, and see how they relate back to something I created: I believe nothing is happening out of order with yourself.

I take the time, even if it''s only one minute in the morning, to breathe slowly and let myself feel the connection to all other breathing and vibrating energies in this world and beyond. I have found that recognizing your relationship to infinity makes the finite more palatable.

What I know for sure is that how you spend your time defines who you are.

I try not to waste time?"because I don''t want to waste myself. I''m working on not letting people with dark energy consume any of my time. I''ve learned that the hard way, after giving up hours of myself and my time, which are synonymous when you think about it. I''ve learned from my experiences of getting sucked into other people''s ego dysfunction that their darkness casts a shadow on the light you need to be for yourself and for others.

What I know for sure is that giving yourself time to just be and not do is essential to fulfilling your mission as a human being. I give myself Sundays. Sometimes I spend the whole day in my pajamas, sometimes I have church under the trees communing with nature?most times I just do nothing?"piddling, I call it?"and let my brain and body decompress from six days of nonstop mental bombardment. If I didn''t do that, I would implode, literally, in a crazy psychic breakdown. And whenever I''ve slipped up and missed a Sunday, I''ve noticed a definite change in my disposition for the rest of the week. I know for sure that you cannot give and give and give to everybody else and not give back to yourself. You will end up empty, or at best less than what you can be for yourself and your family and your work. Replenish the well of yourself, for yourself first. And if you think there''s no time to do that, what you''re really saying is, "I have no life to give to or live for myself." And if you have no life to live for yourself, then why are you
HOW TO BE HAPPIER


WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE
I was standing at the People''s Choice Awards recently, looking out at the crowd and thinking, My God, what an amazing life! I get to do work that leaves me stimulated, fulfilled, and happy. And I get applauded and rewarded for it. How wonderful is that? Pretty wonderful, let me tell you.

And the wonder of it is that I get to be the "people''s choice" because I first chose myself. I recall the very moment I did?"what I was wearing (a blue turtleneck sweater and black Anne Klein slacks), where I was sitting (in my boss''s office), what the chair looked and felt like (brown paisley, too deep and overstuffed)?"when my boss, the general manager, said to me, "There''s no way you can make it in Chicago up against Donahue. It''s his home base. You''re walking into a land mine and you can''t even see it. You''re committing career suicide."

He used every tactic he could muster to entice me to stay?"more money, a company car, a new apartment, and finally, intimidation: "You''re going to fail."

I didn''t know if he was right. I didn''t have the confidence at 29 to believe I could succeed against such an auspicious competitor. I did have the faith to know I could succeed in life. And if it wasn''t in television, then I would be led to something else.

I gathered the nerve to say to him before standing up to walk out, "You''re right, I may not make it and I may be walking into unforeseen land mines. But if they don''t kill me, at least I''ll keep growing. I''ve grown all I can here. I have to move on."

In that moment, I chose happiness. Not just the temporary satisfaction I felt from standing up for myself but the lasting happiness that abides with me every day because I decided not to be afraid and to move forward.

I know for sure that I created this happiness by choice. And I know it''s really not just one choice that matters?"it''s all the baby choices that will lead you to the ultimate moment, when you can make the strongest stand and commitment to yourself and the life that''s calling your name.

The way to choose happiness is to follow what is right and real and the truth for you. You can never be happy living someone else''s dream. Live your own. And you will for sure know the meaning of happiness.

Oprah Winfrey àh. Cool madam . Tuần nào mình cũng xem madam này làm show, cách nói chuyện của bà qủa là thú vị, luôn có lý do để người đối thoại phải tâm sự, phải thổ lộ hết lòng mình
Được hugobosshn sửa chữa / chuyển vào 17:27 ngày 29/01/2006

Các bạn ơi, tớ cũng nghe nói về Ms Oprah Winfrey nhiều lắm rồi nhưng chưa bao giờ đượcnghe bà trực tiếp làm show cả. Có ai biết địa chỉ web nào hoặc kênh truyền hình nào có thể xem show của Winfrey ko? (tớ đang ở HN.Việt Nam)
Cảm ơn nhiều

có phải Mrs da mau` hơi béo đứng ko>> the thi em cung biet. Starmovie co show cua ba` y'' mai~

TRên kênh Starworld...Oprah...

Hôm nay madam này có show về thời trang( quần jeans), cười đau hết cả bụng 

oài, các bác nghe đc cơ ạ, giỏi thật, em nghe mãi, bập bõm, chán hết cả ng`...

nếu để ý và so sánh với giọng anh úc hay anh anh bạn sẽ thấy giọng anh mỹ nghe dễ nhất, bạn chưa tưởng tượng đc accent của aussie đâu lol.
tập nghe cnn và nhất là discovery chanel nhiều đi là nghe đc OW à hihi
@crematory : bà ta mặc thử và mua cái quần jeans gap nhìn béo ú ụ nhể mặc dù đi cùng fashion expert, OW cần fải xem lại vòng 3 hehe
Được hugobosshn sửa chữa / chuyển vào 20:07 ngày 30/01/2006

Oprah là một người phụ nữ đáng nể, da màu, xuất thân từ nguồn gốc nghèo khó, hiện giờ là người phụ nữ quyền lực nhất Hollywood.
Nếu bạn biết Oprah đã giảm cân từ trên 100 cân xuống mức hiện nay là 60 cân bằng cách luyện tập và ăn uống hợp lý thì bạn sẽ không chê bà ấy béo nữa. Anyway, Oprah vừa tròn 52 tuổi vào ngày hôm kia, mình nghĩ là she looks good being 52
Oprah show chiếu trên Starworld lúc 8h sáng và 12h trưa hàng ngày (giờ VN), xem Oprah là cách học tiếng Anh rất hiệu quả, vừa học thêm một ít kiến thức về cuộc sống.
Happy New Year, everyone and Happy Learning

Hello các bạn của box Anh,
Cái phần highlight trên, cho Thuyền nhiều chuyện góp ý . Bạn học tiếng Anh từ bà Oprah, nếu Thuyền là bạn sẽ không bao giờ vậy . Có nhiều lý do hơi tế nhị mà ít ai muốn đi sâu vào . Nói tóm lại , những gia đình VN lớn lên ở Mỹ này, ít ai muốn con em họ nói những kiểu tiếng Anh tiếng Mỹ của dân da đen (đáng lý ra Thuyền dùng 2 chữ da màu, nhưng muốn phân biệt tiếng Mỹ của Mỹ trắng và Mỹ đen) .
Tiếng của dân Mỹ đen, nếu bạn muốn impress với các cô bé teenagers trong bars, thấy đó đuoc xem là kool, là hip hop , thì ok, bạn cứ việc bắt chước . Nhưng tiếng của mấy cô gái Mỹ đen, mấy bà đen như bà này, nếu dùng dùng trong sở làm thì dù không ai nói ra, ai cũng xem như là ... "hơi đanh đá" .
Vẫn biết là lối phát âm cúa mấy cô bé mấy mấy bà đen hay nhấn mạnh và rất rõ, nhưng các bạn bên VN không nên bắt chước phát âm cũng như các lối nói của Mỹ đen .
Sống bên Mỹ này, hoăc không chỉ sống bên Mỹ, khi bạn giao tiếp với nguoi Mỹ trong các moi truong làm việc, giọng của bạn sẽ giúp nguoi ta đánh giá bạn ở giai cấp nào . Ai mà chả biết dân Mỹ có sự kỳ thị trắng đen . Nhưng có lý do của nó . Vì đa số dân Mỹ đen ở Mỹ thất học và rất là ... du đãng . Nôi tiếng trong ở duoi high school luôn .
Giọng Mỹ đen thuong mang lại các phản cảm ngay từ buổi đầu . Bạn sẽ phải mất một thời gian để đánh tan cái phản cảm vô hình đó .
Vì vậy, Thuyền khuyên các bạn nên nhái giọng Mỹ trắng mà học !
Giọng nói của nguoi Anh chính gốc, nhất là giọng London, đuoc xem là giọng nói quý phái và có học nhất . Đó là giọng dễ gây respect ngay trong phút đầu tiên .
Giọng Texas thì mang lại cảm giác "down to earth" . Tuy bị chê là giọng nhà quê, nhưng tình thực, ai cũng công nhận nguoi miền Nam nuoc Mỹ là những nguoi ... down to earth (film Forest Grump) .
Bên Mỹ này, nhất là ở vùng Los, một số thiếu niên lớn lên ở bên đây, họ thích các style và giọng của dân da đen, nhưng thống kê cho thấy thì đó là những thành phần thuờng không có các ambition tiến xa trong việc học để thành công mà more like party, more lại ... quậy cho hết cuộc sống .
Thấy các bạn trong box Anh này có tâm nguyện học tiếng xứ nguoi, Thuyền không nhịn đuoc mà vô post 1 lời khuyên . Có mích lòng ai thì Thuyền xin lỗi truoc .
Tiện đây, các bạn cũng nên phân biệt, các giọng nói trong các talk show hay news trên TV, thuong thì đó không phải là giọng nói bình thuong "ngoai đời" . Tức là họ sửa giọng và phát cho chậm cho rõ . Muốn nhại và muốn học nghe và học nói cho giống cho real, các bạn nên xem phim Mỹ phim Anh nhiều hơn .
Trong phim, các vai chánh vai tà vai giang hồ vai có học, tất nhiên là bạn biết rõ và vì vậy, bạn sẽ ... bắt chuoc cho đúng cái role mà bạn muốn tiếng Mỹ tiếng Anh của minh đuoc như vậy hơn !
Chúc các bạn năm mới vạn sự như ý muốn !
Được thuyenxaxu sửa chữa / chuyển vào 16:10 ngày 31/01/2006