..:: SEC MALE OF THE WEEK::.. a cool man : TAO_LAO

Wat do you do when you ''re in trouble relevant to Love ??? In detail, how do you react ???
Wat are your favorite:
+ Book title
+ Movie
+ Entertainment place
+ Instrument
+ Web page
+ Percept
Is it too much for you, my dear Taolao ?
Waitin ,
B_mai_wei

What kind of trouble in love do you mean? I think about some and answer.
+ interal factors: If the girl (never love me b4) does not love me (even she loved me b4), I walked away. If another guy intervents and the girl and I still love each others, I will fight for my love of course. If she and I are very different in career setting, personality, hobby etc I will try to adjust . If I still can not, what else should I do? Walk away. If I am the third person in love, I will leave. And so far, there is no girl so-called irresistant to me, especially they are already in love. I do not care about the girl already in love, no matter how good she is.
+ external factors: If my parents and family, my friends do not agree with my love, I persuate them and if they are still stubborn, ok lah, you guys live your life I live mine (with my girl.) If we run out of money, no big deal.
In short, unless the girl does not love me anymore I won''''t give up.
1) Book tittle: you will not be interested to read a super long list that I am quite sure. I just list some topics: chinese philosophy ( no more reading), western philosophy (reading), classical music (out of book), classic novel (not enough time to finish), Vietnamese culture and forklore, Vietnamese language (out of book)
2) Movies: Casablanca, Roman holiday, Gone with the wind, My fair lady
3) Entertaining place: coffee shop (in VN), Beach (in Sing)
4) Instrument: violin,cello, piano, er-hụ
5) Webpage: vnexpress, talawas, ttvnol
thank you.
Được tao_lao sửa chữa / chuyển vào 06:29 ngày 23/11/2006

TL,
I have some questions for my "thần tượng" .
1. What is it about the moon that you like it so much, its feature...?
2. Which one do you prefer, love as an ideal or love as an activity, when you are in love with someone? Why? Are you 100% sure that you''re always going to be the way that you''ve chosen?
3. What would you do or tell when your girlfriend doesn''t like poetry, classic music and the "moon"?
4. Here''s a scenario: You love your girlfriend so much, but she doesn''t like to play a tra***ional role such as, cooking, having kids, etc. What would you do, stay or break up with her? Why? What things are you going to deal or do when you''re in this situation?
5. How do you value life - from what perspective do you look at life?

Thank bạn Trang for the questions. I am happy to answer your questions.
1) Why/what do I like moon?
- Ánh Nguyệt (moonlight) is a name of my friend ''s university classmate. I knew her in 1999 when I came to see my friend. Since then I joined my friend ''s class that in VN we called '''' học chui'''' . She is smart,beautiful,charm,good at cooking. She ranked 2nd in Chemistry Department in one semester in Ho Chi Minh City polytechnique university. That ''''s enough to tell how smart she is ,especially in such famous university. How beautiful is she? She is the most beautiful in the department. Some may say ''''beauty is in eyes of beholder'''', but trust me. Besides those, she could cook very well, in one event she is the chef . Her food was very delicious.
Smart, beautiful, and good cook are many girls. What is a big deal accually? Yes, it is not a big deal but her charm matters. She is a quiet and mysterious girl. I knew her for 1.5 years but I heard her speak less than 10 sentences. She possess large and sad eyes. The eyes of men killer. One more point is the way she dress. Very simple but so nice. Anyway, what else can you expect from a girl?
- I arrived Sing in 2001 alone. Completely alone. No Chinese calendar (Yin Calendar) here. I was aware of time, Vietnamese event and festival, by looking at moon. Round moon= 15, and take it as reference.
Moon and rain occupy special place in my heart. No matter how harsh the life and people treat you, both of them never change. They are the same. Moon is bright and beautiful, rain is cool and cold.
- I like poetry since then (2001). Some of my favourist poets are Li bai, Hàn Mặc Tử:
Sàng tiền minh nguyệt quang
Nghị thi địa thương sương
(tĩnh dạ tứ, li bai)
Trăng nằm sóng soãi trên cành liễu
Đợi gió đông về để lả lơi
(Bẽn lẽn, Hàn Mặc Tử)
Vầng trăng ai xẻ làm đôi
Nữa in gối chiếc,nữa soi dặm trường
(Kiều, Nguyễn Du)
Hoa giải nguyệt nguyệt in một tấm
Nguyệt ***g hoa hoa thắm từng bông
(Chinh phụ ngâm, Đoàn Thị Điểm)
So on and so forth
2) Love is an activity between a man and a woman. Human is not perfect, so I do not expect for an ideal love. About latter part of the question 2, are you questioning my loyalty or my will in love? Currently I am not in love yet or at least my friend does not allow me to think that way. It ''s not appropriate for me to answer that part now.
3) My interpretation of this question is what will I do if my gf does not have same hobbies as mine. It is not an issue indeed.
When I was younger, I looked for a person who share hobbies, thoughts with me. What is the point of having someone who do not like what you like,dislike what you dislike. How could I spend my whole life with her. Now I realize between human beings there is so much different. Why should I watse time to find a perfect match, perfect ''another half''? I am fine to have someone who is different from me.
Được tao_lao sửa chữa / chuyển vào 20:02 ngày 24/11/2006

bro Gà,
đến lượt em cool hỏi bro Gà :
bro Gà đọc và biết đc nhiều thơ, zậy bro Gà có làm thơ hông zạ ? nếu có, bro Gà share em cool và nhà mình thưởng thức nghe bro Gà

4) What ''s wrong if my gf does not like to play tra***ional role as a wife?
I guess when you ask me this question, your perception about me is I am a old-fastioned, conservative, tra***ional, rigid and stubborn guy and somehow selfish,individualistic, and family-dominated. Do the reasons lie at the way I conduct my life: I listen to classical music, read poetry and philosphy, drink tea and coffee, like to go library and bookstores, be a quiet guy? People actions creat perception about themselves that I agree with you. However, most of the times those perception are wrong. I am rebelious. I abandon tra***ions and moral value, abuse religious beliefs, look down human beings and society criticism.
Coming back the question. What are implied from a woman who does not like to play a tra***ional wife role? Why do I expect a woman to know about tra***ional value such as cooking? Because I am a difficult guy to feed. No, I tell you. Knowing tra***ional value is a sign of learned girl. And everyone look for a learned, thoughtful girl, not the food she could offer. Now you know my answer: if my gf does not know how to cook, does not like to commit anything in relationship. That is her right which I can not intervent. But I have my right as well. If I am not happy to stay why should I? So it will depend how bad the situation is to make decisions.
5) I do not really understand what you want to ask in this question. Do you want to know my system value/ my ideology/thoughts?
If you want to know my system value here they are. I value family and career. In fact, the persons I live with and the job I do. Why? Because you work 8 hours a day, sleep 8 hours a day. Imagine you suffer 8 hours in work, sleep 8 hours with a girl you do not like at all. Your life is hell.
Therefore, there are two enterprises in my life: to get a job I enjoy doing and to marry a girl I like to sleep with. The rest: eating ( 1 hour a day) ,drinking,comfortable in transportation ( 1 hour a day), entertaining (few hours) are small things, do not care too much.

Rãi rác trong SEC cũng có mấy bài Gà mần, mấy bài mà hổng có tên tác giả là nó đó em.

triết lý sống của Bro Gà là gì? ngoài đời Bro có mạnh miệng cãi nhau với người ta như trên 4rum không?

What do you mean by ''triết lí sống''? ''Cãi nhau'' is to waste time, in internet i have a lot of time, in real time i do not bother much to argue with people.

I have 3 questions for Mr.Tao_lao:
1. Who do you consider as your best friend in SEC? Why? (only one member please)
2. You seem very strict in choosing a lady for your life, what if one day, you meet her but she almost never takes a look on you?
3. What do you wish for on X''mas?