SHOULD VIETNAMESE STUDENTS HAVE ***UAL RELATIONSHIP BEFORE MARRIAGE?

1. ***ual relationship doesn't mean "carefree ***".
2. It's alright to understand Virginity as the BEST gift or whatsoever (for men, hehe, is it the only thing in their minds?), but it's not "the proof of pure love and devotion". Excuseme !!!
3. " Eastern men, needless to say, mostly would go for virgin wives. They feel confident and happy when getting married with innocent girls, and feel damaged and uncomfortable if their wives have lost their virginity. And if their families know that the wife has lost her virginity, they will even be more depressed and ashamed ". This perhaps originates from the fact that in olden time Women were viewed as servants and baby bearers who had no right in decision making and self protecting. Of course Virginity of the wife make the marriage much more meaningful, but you cannot say :" I am ashamed because of your lost Virginity".
4. "Since ***ual relationship offers them wonderful feeling, they will forget the major goal, studying"... "In brief, I strongly believe that ***ual relationship should be restricted, at least to Vietnamese students who come from such a typical Asian culture where virginity is valued, who are serious in their studies, and who want to stay a healthy life. "
According to the above statement, whatever brings "wonderful feeling" ... will make people forget their major goals (???).
I agree immature students MIGHT NOT be able to control their desire and they might be taken away with the joy of having ***. But *** is a human nature in itself and even if you want to restrict, you willnot be able to. By the way who has the right to restrict ***ual relationship?
=> Our parents are not serious in their jobs, and they don't want healthy lives. (Students are generally 18-22 yr old, in most nations this age is considered ADULT physically, intellectually and mentally)
In short, I don't think restricting/tabooing ***ual relationship is a good idea. In stead of making them think *** in something untouchable and dirty, they need to be comfortable and understand that *** is just part of life and there are other equally important things to do at their age as well.
I would keep my virginity because I value it, not because the Men or their mothers value it, otherwise ultimately Virginity is another "trick"!
No pain no gain

we had a topic 4 the writing test "what are U 4 and against?". And then my writing was "i'm 4 ***ual interact b4 marriage". Can u believe it, my teacher's remark was, "this is not a topic that should be discuss at ur age". OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!! ( im 19 and goin' 20 at the moment)
I wrote, 'i think that ***ual interact b4 marriage gives the youth experience 'bout ***. Besides, u know that at the age of >17, the demand of having *** sometimes becomes bad desire. So having ***ual interact legally prevent youth (i mean male) from committing *** crime. Anyway, im not 4 forced ***ual interact, it must have will from both sides.
i mean, if u don't have *** b4, then it must be very confusing and maybe... shy, or anything on the 1st night of marriage as it is the 1st time U have *** with the opp. ***
ofc. i know that virginity is very worthy and... i mean, beside virginity, i also need interesting ***ual interact!!!!!!!!!!!
that's my idea.
i don't wanna hurt nobody but my heart just can't hold back

Hey, just wanna ask all the guys in here: Would u accept a girl, who's lost her virginity to another guy b4 marrage, to be ur wife? Would u forgive her?
Just curious

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Được tioz sửa chữa / chuyển vào 09:56 ngày 03/04/2003

Hi Fini,
How are you doing?
You raised a very interesting topic. I totally agree that it's best to wait until after marriage to "cross the border". However, a couple may consider having ***ual relationship before marriage if they are physically and, most importantly, mentally mature.
I assume we are physically mature when we reach the age of 18.
As for mentally mature, see if we can answer "yes" to the following questions:
-Is this my own decision?
-Do I want to get married with this person?
-Will I ever feel regret about this if later we decide not to get married?
-Am I ready for children? (Asking this question doesn't mean we are afraid of getting pregnant. It only proves that we are responsible for the decision we make, and any consequences that might come)
-Do I want to have children with this person?
*** involves responsibility, family life and children. Thus, we ought to take things into consideration so that later on, we'll feel happy about our decision.

This situation is very normal now. You can try and learn more before getting married because u 'll understand what does your partner like.
That's good aspect
Đại Ca

we r discussing virginity of girls only, right? y not ask about that of boys. Y boys wanna ask for that from girls while they can do *** on others girls???
I think nowadays, when people lead more free life and westernized lifestyle, they no longer appreciate virginity, they can have that relationship at very early age and even without regretting for it. So virginity is not as important as b4, and all men should not keep the feudal opinion about it, just think of the present girl that you love, dont care what she did..., as long as she belongs to you physically and spiritually, and of course as long as you love her..........
I believe I can fly
I believe I can touch the sky
I think abt it every night and day
spread my wings and fly away
I believe I can soar....

hmm.... I'm still too young to talk about this topic but.... I think that we'd better keep our tra***ion. What would a boy think if his sweetheart is no longer a virgin? It's hard to accept anyway!!!
I wrote your name in the sand, but the waves took it away.
I wrote your name in the sky, but the wind blew it away.
So I write your name in my heart, where no one can take it away and it'll be forever...

rite Brit . Actually noone can accept it though someone thought it is normal. It also belongs to morals, even though sometimes it's a spur-of-the-moment . In a nutshell, it is "worthy" avoiding
BTW tioz: heh..anh findosa huh? cơ mà curious dữ vây ta? he`..topic này hình như lâu lắm lắm rồi hay sao ý.

yeah nebula, just a bit curious. Mới quay lại diễn đàn thôi, đâu biết cái nào cũ mới đâu. Hỏi chơi vậy thôi, xem bà con nghĩ sao. Mà toàn thấy gals là sao nhỉ? Ko thấy guys nào vào cả.
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Love is in your heart not to stay, but to be shared

hehheh how the hell can you restrict *** among student, especially female when they reach a mature age, when they really need *** as a bacic human needs such as clothes, food an drinks. An those eastern men are all selfish guys, they want to have *** with a lot of girls but still they wat their wives to be virgins, morover wat do you call virginity a gift, how ironical, u must be nut ,so what do men do in return for receiving that gift ?nothing.And at this age of 17 or 18 is the best age for *** cause yoou are strong, if you dont do it right away you will feel like being imprisoned or are you going to give yourself that pleasure, u r such a loser Having too much *** is bad, too bad, but let's imagine a girl at his 17 and she has to wait until 24 or 25 to be f**ked. I think she must have mental problems. Should i remind you that this is the 21st century, we are free to do things, and let's not consider that to be something serious,
give me an oral pleasure