SHOULD VIETNAMESE STUDENTS HAVE ***UAL RELATIONSHIP BEFORE MARRIAGE?

It'll take forever to debate such a topic. People are free to live the way they choose to. It's not wrong to have *** before marriage, and it's also a nice thing if one decides to "save" for the love of one's life. In western societies, the word "virginity" seems to have been long forgotten. The eastern tra***ion, on the other hand, once did put "virginity" above all. Even though, things have changed, it definitely does not mean one should totally disregard this value, not to say exhibiting any kind of attitudes toward those who choose to respect the tra***ion. I, personally, have a lot of respects for those whose way of thinking and lifestyle are not dramatically depending upon what other people do. *** should be an edge, a symbol of love, not something one does just because everyone else is doing, or because "it's kinda cool".
As a fact, these days, there are more and more young girls from eastern countries losing their virginity before marriage, while more and more western young girls decide to wait for the right man to come along.
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I cannot agree more, anh Xương

My opinion here:
I'm not at all critisizing anyone who has *** before marrage. However, I myself prefer the girl, who's gonna be my wife, to be a virgin. Saying that doesn't mean I'm selfish, because I would also keep my own "virginity" for her. You may say I'm an old-style man. I don't care. I value my attitude and the tra***ion of our country. In fact, it's the tra***ion that now many westerners wanna get back to as well.
But you may ask me: what if the girl you love happens to lose her "virginity"? Would you forgive her? Well, it's hard to say now because it really depends on other things too. If she is honest to me and tells me everything before getting married then I would probably forgive her. I think that love is more important than anything else, and although I do take into account "virginity", it's not really the decisive factor. So, my answer to the question above would likely be Yes.
Just one more thing I wanna say: don't be too easy to yourself, and don't do something studid just because it's something that a lot of people are doing. And I've also got this quote which might be appropriate here: Do not choose to be wrong for the sake of being different.
Thanks for reading.
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hum...plenty of ideas. I know a girl who lost her virginity before marriage. Her husband, firstly, said that he didn't mind but he didn't keep his "promise" at all. Simply he felt that he could not lay his truth on his wife and because he's not sure if he will be betrayed again. Just due to she ever made a "mistake". Of course, she was not happy....
Perhaps, he is considered as a "bad" husband. In contrast, someone may blame her. It's complicated anyway....but once again : sometimes it's a spur-of-the-moment. But from my point of view, girls should think about it carefully to keep themself away from any risk may happen in future, at least for them
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Hey guys, isn't it selfishness that a boy wants his wife to be virgin (she never has *** before) while he can go off to some other girls at the very young age????? Huh

Do you know that Western young peole often have *** at the age of 13-14, and in Sing, at 16-17, so there are a lot of reasons for this, and to know more, plz find and see some movies like: American Beauty, or American Pie to learn abt it....
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Loads of different ideas and opinions so far.
But the fact of the matter is roughly 80-90% percent of young couples nowadays have already done that, I firmly believe.
The trend is now changing dramatically, you guys are in love, having chances to be so close to one another, so why don't we just do "IT" without reckoning to much, not like in the old days grand dad and grand mom considered IT "this is immoral", JEEZ
The question "should or shouldn't we" is now inapplicable no more I'm afraid, the issue "how to get a safer and healthy ***" should be raised since I've known awful lots of people got serious probs to deal with after having moaning, hmm !
Oops, that's fair enough. If you agree or not, just join.
Cheers.

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why u guys keep think bout this as an very hot very important etc? why jus thing about the disadv of it, why try 2 think bout the good side of it?
Far away from ***ual relationship, u can know more bout the one u r goin 2 live together, is s/he good for u? is s/he can be together with u till the rest of Ur life etc? if not, u can easily move out and choose another gals/guys that fit with u. is that a good thing?
Beside that, ***ual relationship is when u love each other. It doesnt mean anything really trouble b4 marriage. Mostly guys have *** before they have family, so what do ya guys want from a girls? If a guys r not virgin , dont expert "it" from Uf wife.
I think its not a new topic, but there always 4 & against, just stop argue, just do watever u think is rite. It's better than look at these other and say " No, I dont like it, it's bad or it's good ect"
Nothing can stop me when I'm with you

Just wonder what if the guy u love does not "fit" u? What if you've tried 10, 20 or even more and still couldn't find the one? Love is not just ***. There's a lot more involved. Anyway, just go and do anything u prefer. Your life is yours and u can do anything u want. There's no need to argue about that. Good luck!
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Love is in your heart not to stay, but to be shared