what do u gonna do when you are upset about something?

When you are disappointed about someone, something, Or someone betray you, what''''re you going to do next?
for example, between you and your lover, are you running back to see your ex-lover ?
or with your job, when you see you are treated unfair by the manager, are you going to fight back or just keep silent? Like me, sometimes, be in hiding somewhere, crying there, then it''''s done...or going shopping but later regretting because of spending so much money
Or, you should think about optimistic way? I''''m in badluck now, so maybe I will meet the prince tomorrow ???
Anyway, I''''m looking for something to post...in SEC, just want to create a new topic.

Frankly speaking, I have never been dumped by any girl nor treated unfair by my boss. But suppose those things happen, this is what I will do and I strongly suggest that you should do. First thing first, CALM DOWN and THINK DEEPLY. At tricky moments, the fool will let his anger guide him but the wise will let his brain guide him. All that you need to do is to find a reason first. Believe me, everything(except God''''s faults) happens for a reason.
Take the case when you have just been dumped by your lover as an example. These are the questions that you may ask in this case: "Have I done anything wrong?", "Why does she/he dump me?", "Does he/she dump me because of someone else?" "If he/she dumps me because of someone else then is that man/woman better than me?", "Is it my fault that he/she dumps me or is it just him/her?", "Is there anything that I should have done to avoid her/him treating me like that?". After answering those questions, I believe you can find your own solution to overcome that situation. Let me take this question as an example:"Is it my fault that she dumps me?" If the answer is yes, then you only have yourself to blame. What you can do now is to think what you should do to get him/her back if you really do not want to lose her. If the answer is no then there is nothing that you can do but to forget him/her and begin a new life. After all, tomorrow is a new day and believe me, time can heal all pains.
I know it is always easy saying than doing but that is the thing that make us different from each other. The wise will do what he thinks he needs to do while the fool either does not know what he needs to do or does not do what he knows he needs to do.
Anyway, good luck to the topic maker. Hope you will overcome your current situation soon.
Được theInvincible sửa chữa / chuyển vào 17:02 ngày 06/03/2006

@ invincible: Thanks so much but nothing happened to me. I saw SEC so quiet, I just want to create a new topic. Howerver, nobody''s exciting on it...
Hopefully, I can see more topics on SEC.

Although what theInvisible said is a good (or best) choice, I don''t think we can do the same with everything.
For trouble thing comes from the office, I think calm down and think deeply to find a way to overcome the situation is the best way. But sometime when thing cannot be settled, just go blast (with the evidence of the root cause); no need to hold back.
It''s hard to get yourself calm when trouble comes from the feeling. Because we often get shock and in this state you cann''t think about anything .
Like gatihon, I often go shopping (most of the time is shopping for candy and cake) or call a friend and find something to eat; then go home and sleep. If I don''t know the reason yet, I''ll try to find out and how to solve it after my mind is calm down a bit.
When there''s something happen between me and my lover, I''m not running back to see my ex-lover (if I have any) except she''s my very close friend now.
PS: writing really takes me a lot of time, there''s so much think that I wanna say but I cann''t find the words. That''s the reason most of my posts are in "Góc âm nhạc"

i think dealing with disappointment anger depends on a person''s personality too.
if you think you can get over it soon, just stop thinking about it, do something else and let it go.
but if you know you''d be hauted by it then do something about it. yell at your dog, break something, punch your pillow. or even confront the person who cause it. have you guys watched "anger management", that movie can give some reference to this topic.
my mantra is: upset or happy, disappointed or believe, cry or smile, i still have to live, so i wil not fill my day with negative things.

Slip away...
Avoid....
Run away...
In fact, I need my own space to calm down.

Suddenly today I feel that I need a quiet place, is it too conflict with a girl like me?

when I see you said that you needed a quiet place, I remember the time when I was upset. I think not only you want to find a place for yourself. So I am quite not agree when you said that.
Can you imagine that I used to get in rest-room...but now, I often to go church. Because when I need a quiet place, it means that I have something to worry or I am not happy.Going to church helps me to release paint or sorrow and I always have someone listen to me.

I have bad temper so when I get upset, I just want to scream, punch the wall, or break something. One time I punched the wall so hard that I broke my knuckle. Silly me. I need to learn to control my temper. I have done so many stupid things just because I couldn''t control myself. I need to change or else I''ll do more regretable things.

I''m not a Christian.
My quiet place is my room. By locking the door and sitting at my desk, I think of a good solution for my troubles. Of coz u have ur own opinion, but I''m such a hot temper, I need to calm down. And that''s the way I am. Anyway, these days I felt so bad. Thoughtful...