What women really want?

Oh God! What else could I expect more? I''m such not complete, so I just need my man to be true with me, that''s enough.
Again, to my man: I love you just the way you are.

Do you think we all have a tendency (whether obvious or not) to compare our new lover with the old one(s)?
Even when we don''''t really want to, we still make that comparison sometimes. Not mentioning the element of fairness and unfairness yet, when we somehow realize that we''''ve been comparing, we''''re hurt.
If you''''re certain that you never do so... congrats!! Because it means you have nothing to regret, to look back, or to worry a tiny bit about.
So, I''''d like to ask those who have been in such a situation where you compare your lover with the ex... do you think that your "old standards" of qualities affect your new ones?
That''s probably a little bit off-topic, I guess, but what do women (and men) really want? Do we really know what we expect in a lover? And are we always fair enough?
This part of the song "I Heard It Through The Grapevine" ( Marvin Gaye) broke my heart:
People say believe half of what you see,
son, and none of what you hear.
I can''''t help bein'''' confused
if it''''s true please tell me dear?
Do you plan to let me go
for the other guy you loved before?
"Do you plan to let me go for the other guy you loved before?"
How would I answer such a question like that.....

Được Satori sửa chữa / chuyển vào 12:53 ngày 01/06/2006

Coincidentally, the topic of our meeting online this week is similar to what Tao_lao cares about. Satori, Tao_lao, and other members pay attention to this topic, you can join our 9th online meeting for more detailed discussion and sharings.
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According to almost everyone''s opinion, especially for king67, what women wants in the man is money, reputation and possition.
So, actually they don''t really want to have a true love. They don''t really want to have a honest lover. All they want is money, reputation and possition.
What it means is when you guys hook up a girl, and this girl tells you that in order for you to hook her up, you have to have all of the con***ions above. Do you think this girl love you for true ? or all they want is just your background.
Therefore, what do women want ? we should ask what type of women ? If women want the con***ions above in order to be your lover, you should get far away from this type. Because even though you had all of the con***ions above, this type of women might stay with you for a period of time, and they will dump you and follow another man with a better con***ion.
Finally, in my opinion, women want the man who can honestly love them and of course they have to love you back. That''s the perfect situation. However, as everyone knows, life is not easy like that. We''re always seeking for the one we love, but barely pay attention to the one loves you.
Được Fini sửa chữa / chuyển vào 06:22 ngày 04/06/2006

Seems that what women expect from men who will be their lovers is different from what they expect from their future husbands.
All women want true love to be the first con***ion. However, what is true love then? Does it mean that he can not care of any other girls at the same time? How can you read his mind? Does it mean that he has to be with you forever? How can you tell the future? Does it mean that he has to be with you all the time? You can have his body, but it does not necessarily mean you have his soul. Therefore, true love per se is a relative concept and I do not dare to think about it because it can make me hurt if he does not show his "true" love for me at a particular moment. I would rather live with present, with moments we are together and having fun and not to torture my mind by the "true love".
I do not say money, social status, education etc are not important. We are no longer living in a world of "1 mai nha tranh, 2 trai tim vang". If I am a laywer, I can not be interested in a guy who has high-school diploma! Please do not say I am practical or material or arrogrant, because if I do, what will two of us be talking about during our dates? However, those so-called con***ions can not be a guarantee that the man will be my mind. Love is something strange to explain. Sometimes just in a particular moment, at a particular point of time, you suddenly realize he is the one you are looking for. Money, social status can help a man stand out among hundreds of similar faces, but it does require other things...
Although it is difficult to give a definite answer for what qualifications you like best from a man, and different women may give different answers, I would vote for "intelligent (which does not mean the man has high education, some just brought their diplomas literally or figuratively), great sense of humor, and strong personality"

I am very excited to be overwhelmed by a bundle of very positive responses from you. Thank you.
From start, we just mentioned about what we want. How about the qualities we do not want or expect. A lot of Vietnamese women never expect to marry an addicted man. An addicted man of alcohol ,of cigarette, of heroin, or of seductive girls. If you just focus on expected qualities and ignore the unexpected qualties you could pay for very high price.
So ladies and gentlemen, pls share with us what you do not want (, we do the rest again).
Let me add one point about VN men. I felt that 99.99 percent of VN men like to dominate in the family and want to feel superior to their women( gia trưởng). They want women to just obey their orders, stay home as a housewife, never expect them be promoted far in their careers. Second, they are very selfish. What will you say about these two bad characters?
Được tao_lao sửa chữa / chuyển vào 17:22 ngày 04/06/2006

Gia trưởng, selfish, arrogant, talkative (talk with good sense of humor is ok, however, do not talk too much)

it is very sad to admit what you said are true. A talkative Vietnamese man did make me feel embarassed with a Chinese girl. He is a man, yet he behaved like a woman. Mean and talkative. Some other Vietnamese men are very arrogant, overcondident. They feel great about themselves even thought a few are real talented and a few are not at all.
They are very good at abusing others. They like criticising, giving negative feedback, discouranging others'' work. And what I hate the most is that they are very mean and envious with other poeple ''s sucess. They want others to be failed (especially young people).
I fed up to talk badly about VNese guys. So you girls had rather stay single to avoid such mean guys. So do guys (lắc đầu, thui đi uống cafe).

So did you mean that we women would be mean and talkative??? Hum...

I am sorry if my above sentences misunderstood you. In Eastern tra***ion women were considered equally as Tiểu nhân ( small man--> mean). Men were expected to behave as Quân Tử (Mandarin Son). They are two opposite concepts. Therefore, when a man is compared to a woman he is compared to Tiểu nhân (it is not the way he is expected to be/behave). So please be noticed that people does not mean women are mean or Tiểu nhân when people make such comparition.
However, if you are pleased to understand my sentences as you mentioned, feel free to do so. To me, people are mean, no need to doubt about it.